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  • Cyndi Earle

The Holidays, Stress and Depression

Mayo Clinic studies show that stress and depression can not only ruin your holidays but can also harm your health significantly. Being realistic, planning ahead and seeking support can help ward off stress and depression.

The holidays often come with a dizzying array of demands. Cooking meals, shopping, baking, cleaning and entertaining, to name just a few. And if coronavirus disease (COVID-19) is active in your area you may be feeling additional stress, or you may be worried about your own or the health of your loved ones. You may also feel stressed, sad or anxious because your holidays look different or beyond your control.

But with some practical tips, you can minimize the stress that accompanies the holidays. You may even end up enjoying the holidays more than you thought you would!

When stress is at its peak, it's hard to stop and regroup. Try to prevent stress and depression in the first place, especially if the holidays have taken an emotional toll on you in the past.

  • Acknowledge your feelings. If someone close to you has recently died or you can't be with loved ones for other reasons, realize that it's normal to feel sadness and grief. It's okay to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can't force yourself to be happy just because it's the holiday season.

  • Reach out. If you feel lonely or isolated, seek out community, religious or other social events in your communities.

  • If you're feeling stressed during the holidays, it also may help to talk to a friend or family member about your concerns. Try reaching out with a text, a call or a video chat.

  • Volunteering your time or doing something to help others also is a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships. For example, consider dropping off a meal and dessert at a friend's home during the holidays.

  • Be realistic. The holidays don't have to be perfect or just like last year. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to, and be open to creating new ones.

  • For example, if your adult children or other relatives can't come to your home, find new ways to celebrate together, such as sharing pictures, emails or videos. Or meet virtually on a video call. Even though your holiday plans may look different, you can find ways to celebrate together.

  • Set aside differences. Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don't meet your expectations.

  • Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion. And be understanding if others get upset or distressed when something goes awry. Chances are they're feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression, too.

  • Stick to a budget. Before you do your gift and food shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend. Then stick to your budget. Don't try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts.

  1. Try these ideas,

  2. Donate to a charity in someone's name.

  3. Give homemade gifts.

  4. Start a family gift exchange.

  • Plan ahead. Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, connecting with friends and other activities. Consider whether you can shop online for any of your items. Plan your menus and then make your shopping list. That'll help prevent last-minute scrambling to buy forgotten ingredients. And make sure to line up help for meal prep and cleanup.

  • Learn to say no. Saying yes when you should say no can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed. Friends and family will understand if you can't participate in every project or activity.

  • Don't abandon healthy habits. Don't let the holidays become a free-for-all. Overindulgence only adds to your stress and guilt.

  • Have a healthy snack before the holidays so you don't go overboard on sweets, cheese or drinks.

  • Eat healthy meals.

  • Get plenty of sleep.

  • Include regular physical activity in your daily routine.

  • Take a breather. Make some time for yourself. Find an activity you enjoy. Take a break by yourself. Spending just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, may refresh you enough to handle everything you need to do. Find something that reduces stress by clearing your mind, slowing your breathing and restoring inner calm.

  • Take control of the holidays. Don't let the holidays become something you dread. Instead, take steps to prevent the stress and depression that can descend during the holidays. Learn to recognize your holiday triggers, such as financial pressures or personal demands, so you can combat them before they lead to a meltdown. With a little planning and some positive thinking, you can find peace and joy during the holidays.


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